By now i solved my task by

bolvan — Sat, 19 Jul 2014 08:27:50 +0000

By now i solved my task by slightly modifying p1_tls_drv.so

p1_tls_drv.c :
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#ifdef SSL_OP_NO_COMPRESSION
<------> if (flags & COMPRESSION_NONE)
<------> SSL_set_options(d->ssl, SSL_OP_NO_COMPRESSION);
#endif

// MODDED
SSL_set_options(d->ssl, SSL_OP_NO_TLSv1|SSL_OP_NO_SSLv3|SSL_OP_NO_SSLv2);

<------> SSL_set_ex_data(d->ssl, ssl_index, d);
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compile
replace lib/ejabberd-14.05/priv/lib/p1_tls_drv.so

This is dumb but it works.

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